Poor Ol’ Dad. There’s not a whole lot of respect directed at him. But he does have his Day in the Sun Sunday, June 16. That’s Father’s Day for the uninformed.
It doesn’t compare in recognition or respect as Mother’s Day. That’s probably the way it should be considering all the virtues Moms have. And we have to admit, men in general can be slobs, although some improvements can be noted.
Dads in general took a recent hit in a poll sponsored by Visiting Angels, which is short for Visiting Angels Living Assistance Service, which was established in 1991 as an independent agency caring for seniors in their homes. The agency commissioned a poll that surveyed 1,118 people, 778 women and 342 men. Keep the gender in mind as you read this.
One of the findings in the survey was that only 33 percent would choose to move in (take care of in-house) Dad over Mom. We can understand that since Moms would be a help around the house while Dads like to be waited on. Many of those polled said Dads have worse hygiene, are lazier and sloppier than Moms. They added that Dads are most likely to say inappropriate things and are more controlling when it comes to television. But the respondents did admit that Dad beat out Mom for taking less space and costing less to move in.
The youngest and the oldest child are more likely to take in Dad. That’s kinda strange.
The majority in the poll said Mom is more help than Dad with cooking and cleaning; better with the kids than Dad; neater; a better listener; and easier to live with. That’s probably true, but Dad’s probably more fun to be with and picks up the tab while dining out more often than Mom. They didn’t ask that in the poll!
Most of the respondents (72 percent) said they have no plan for aging parents. More than half said they haven’t even talked about it.
The poll revealed that 70 percent of adult children do not want their parents (either one) moving in with them. Money won’t motivate — 85 percent say even if they got more of the inheritance they would not be more inclined to move their parents into their homes.
Forty-one percent said they would prefer their parents live in their own homes with a caregiver rather than move in with them. And more than half said they believe their parents would rather stay in their own home.
Two-thirds of those polled said they can’t afford to have their parents move in with them. Yet 76 percent said they would pay out of their own pocket if their parent needed care.
Getting back to Father’s Day. The truth is, Dads don’t expect much for their day. But don’t make the mistake of saying, “Have a nice day.” Those words are too common, worn out, unimaginative, boring, lacking impact, meaningless, uninspiring, verbally unenriched and shallow.
And if you take Dad out for breakfast, lunch or dinner, let Dad pay since he’s used to it, and to Dad that’s enjoyable.