The wedding planning process is under way, and while I expected to take a backseat in the process, apparently I will be riding on the hood and hanging on for dear life.

Jami and I looked at a few locations to hold our wedding, but haven’t quite found the location we are looking for in a venue.

Over the weekend, we found a great place north of Hermann, but the distance and price tag were each a little too hard to swallow.

So we are back to the drawing board.

Our (Jami’s) initial plans for our wedding called for a Christmastime event featuring reds and silvers, ornaments, Christmas trees, holiday cheer and possibly trading some rings, too.

But when I really started to think about it, if it were to ice during the event, much of my family and some friends would be stuck in some airport or not be able to make the trip by car.

Bah humbug.

We did very little planning for the event until just recently when we thought it would be a great idea to have a fall wedding. . . in a barn.

To me it is a great idea, until we began looking for places to hold the event and it really dawned on me that our October date is only four months away and we couldn’t find a location.

Imagine that, barns are used to store hay and to shelter animals. I was under the impression that the structures were kept empty, clean and farmers were just waiting for a couple to hold a wedding in them.

So, after looking at a friend’s barn, and scouring the Internet for a location, to no avail, we have decided to hold our wedding in April 2013.

It won’t be the fall wedding that Jami had her heart set on (after I crushed her dreams of a Christmas wedding), but at least the spring is her third favorite of the four seasons.

The only thing we know is that Jami will be the bride, and I most likely will be the groom.

With the April date in mind, we checked out the wedding location north of Hermann, but it is difficult to ask people to drive 1 1/2 hours to our wedding, give us a bunch of cash, then drink some beer and drive home on the narrow mountain passes that make up the trek back.

Not to mention that the cost of the wedding/reception location is the more than I was hoping to pay on the entire wedding.

So, that puts us back to square one.

It was brought to my attention just recently that we would be taking out a loan to pay for this shindig.

The entire time that Jami had been rattling off numbers for the amount we should apply for in a loan, I kept picturing a judge, in a courtroom, doing this entire ceremony much cheaper.

But, apparently our first wedding (just kidding) won’t be in front of someone in robes, unless I want to end up in the courtroom under different pretenses shortly thereafter.

It’s the little things that add up that I didn’t take into account that really gave me sticker shock.

I pictured our costs to include a place to hold the wedding, a tuxedo and a dress, some food and beer, and if we are feeling generous, then perhaps some wine, too.

However, I didn’t think about linens, flatware, silverware, flowers, decorations, a cake? two cakes? a bunch of little cakes?

Needless to say, we will apply for a loan, which will be paid off over the course of several years through blood, sweat and tears; possibly a second job, a lot of plasma and our firstborn.

While the wedding planning is quite the pain, on a positive note planning a honeymoon seems to come together much quicker. In fact that part is done — which is the carrot that we are chasing to get through the shenanigans of a wedding.